Are you waiting for your girl?

I am always dumfounded by people when they say to me, "so, you gonna keep trying till you get YOUR girl?" or "you have 3 boys?! Wow, how many more until you decide to give up?" or "oh gosh...3 boys huh?" I've even had someone apologize to me because I have 3 boys. I could correct them...or help them see the error of their ways...however, I do not believe MY words are going to change them. I will say this though...please do not apologize to me. There is no need. I LOVE being a boy mom. Every day I am reminded how God gave me EXACTLY what I need in my life. I am not waiting until I have a girl for my life to be complete. It is complete now. I did not have my boys as a means to an end in the quest to get "my girl". My boys are MY LIFE. I do NOT need a girl to be complete or fulfilled. I feel so sorry for anyone who says these things to me or even if you THINK these things. Yes, at one time, I was like you. I thought that everyone needs a girl. This is simply not the case any longer. Yesterday I was at a cheerleading competition. I was watching it and enjoying it. A mom comes up to me and says how many daughters do you have? I replied, None, I have 3 boys. She said, oh, what are you doing here? Well, last I checked I was a girl! I just laughed, because as I said, my opinions are not going to make her see her error. After she walked off, I stood there and examined my heart. DO I still long for a girl? DO I think my life would be BETTER if I had a daughter? Then with an almost startling revelation, I realized...NO! I was standing there enjoying every minute of the cheerleading competition, but I was not longing for a girl. I saw a path that I will not be able to set foot on unless my sons have daughters, but..that's ok.

What is wrong with our culture? When we feel like not having a girl in a family means the family is not complete. What message are we sending our sons? We expect our sons to be gentlemen, sensitive, respectful of women, but then we send them the message that they are of less value than a girl. Think about it...a girl mom will spend a FORTUNE on clothes for a girl...she has boy...and it's slicky pants and t shirts...Don't get me wrong. My sons LOVE their slicky pants and t shirts, but I love shopping for my boys clothes. And I bet if we could somehow measure it..I work MUCH harder than the girl moms at FINDING those cute clothes! lol..Clothes manufacturers will design three times as many girl clothes as they do boy clothes. In China, the girls are the ones of less value than the boys. The same is true in some middle eastern countries. Is THIS why we act as if the GIRL is the end all of parenting joys?! We are trying to fix their error?

At the cheerleading competition, I called Josh and asked him to bring me something.

Then a bit later, when he came, my sons came too to say hello to me and I took my 6 year old in the gym so he could see the cheerleaders perform. I explained to him how they were being thrown high in the air...and I had a thought that some of my good friends would get onto me, that I am going to "make him gay". I say this to you...NO, I am going to help him be a sensitive boyfriend, guy pal to his girl pals, and husband and later a father. Think about your husband, best guy pal, or brother. When you put a girl movie in, does he make sarcastic remarks, oh yeah, a CHICK FLICK? Or does he sit and watch it with you and see good aspects even though the movie was CLEARLY for a girls enjoyment? If he does the latter, either you got REALLY lucky, trained him VERY well OR, his father/mother SHOWED him by example how to be respectful and sensitive to a ladies interests. By taking my sons to a sport led and conquered by women/ladies/girls, I am showing them that girls are strong individuals and that as a man, it is God's calling on their lives to be sensitive to the desires/interests of women. Even IF they truly think it's dumb!

I have heard numerous times, my moms of boys, make comments about not taking their sons to see the Hannah Montana movie or Tangled in the theatre. That's a GIRL movie...well, my sons have seen both. They enjoyed them both. They went for ME. I wanted to see them. It is equally wrong for us BOY moms to think that the ONLY way we can bond with our sons is to do so on THEIR turf! Yes, we should roll in the mud with them, but I want my sons to be good husbands, good daddies! I want them to WANT to take their wives or daughters to see the latest Disney girlie movie! And to be able to walk away and say, Wow that was funny/good. The last time we were at Disney World, we had went to the Star Wars ride and every other ride that appealed to my sons and husband. I had one request...I wanted to see Beauty and the Beast on stage. Brit complained. "ugh," he said, "this is for GIRLS." My husbands response was one that I will hold close to my heart for the rest of my existence! He said, "guys, mommy has done all of our GUY stuff, we can enjoy a GIRL thing with her!" I loved that! Because guess what...Mommy IS a GIRL! Now, you might be saying, or justifying..well, I have boys AND girls and so Dad can take the BOY movies and I will take the girl movies...no...no...no...I say, if you are all going out as a family to see a movie..then SEE A MOVIE AS A FAMILY! It does NOT hurt your girls to support their brothers in THEIR interests nor does it hurt your sons to support their sisters in THEIR interests! You are a family! Your sons will grow to appreciate girls interests and your daughters will grow to appreciate boys interests. In our home, we will see guy movies for the boys and daddy and see girl movies for Momma! Say what you will, but I KNOW my sons will grow to be better rounded men because of it!